I've been with my partner for 4 years, ENM from the beginning - I proposed it as we're both bi and I wanted us to explore that side of our sexuality. He's only ever ended up hooking up with men, I with women, but we've been thinking of group sex as well. We have a loving relationship, can spend entire days laughing together, and can be completely open about our desires. We've agreed on using contraception (ofc), and to let the other one know in case of any incidents. He's had more casual hookups than me since it's so easy on Grindr, and had unprotected sex once - the guy he was with took a condom off without telling him. He let me know immediately, got tested in time, we used condoms until the results came back etc. He's also on Prep and just gets routine STI tests every 1-2 months. Two days ago he messaged me (we're long distance) that a guy he saw a few weeks ago just tested positive for throat gonorrhea - and they had oral sex without protection. I kind of always assume that we weren't using protection for oral - I never used it with women, as I thought the risk of actually catching anything that way was minimal. But now I find myself furious with him - he's flying over to see me tomorrow (I'm on Erasmus abroad) and I've been really looking forward to being intimate with him. I know my anger isn't justified as I've been doing the same thing, I'm just furious that because of a meaningless ONS I can't have sex with someone I love. He's very apologetic and obviously upset about potentially having an STI - he got tested asap yesterday and will get results Monday. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with emotions like these? I feel like I don't really want to talk to him, and even considered a breakup for a few min. I'm also 3 days before my period and experiencing awful mood swings, so just need reassurance my reaction isn't too horrible.