So first off thanks for reading and thank you even more if you drop some helpful advice. Sorry in advance if this post is long 😅

Recently after 8 years together, 4 years of that being married, my partner (27f) and I (27m) have ran into a rather precarious situation involving what I believe is her sexual awakening. Some background, around 3-4ish years ago she mentioned to me that she thinks she may be Bi, however my partner was raised in an extremely religious household so that was an obvious no go in her development throughout her teenage years and into adulthood. She’s never been with anyone outside of me as I was her first actual relationship that wasn’t overseen by her parents. Since deconstructing from religion, she’s become far more independent and bold in her desires not only in terms of sexuality but life in general. Being that I didn’t have the same background, I got to experiment and hook up a lot while in high school and college. I’m Bi/Pan as well so I got the chance to crossover to see what I was missing out on all those years (was fantastic btw). Like I said though, recently she’s had an experience that I find quite beautiful. She’s developed an extremely close relationship with another girl who has a similar upbringing to her. The girl has made a lot of inferences to my wife about wanting to express her sexuality more and has admitted to fantasizing about my wife. We have extremely good communication and my wife was honest in that she too has been confused as she finds the girl attractive and believes that it is also in a sexual nature. We’ve never opened our relationship up. We’ve discussed the concept in the past but never thought it was for us, although I have had multiple threesomes in the past as well as group sex/orgies in college (wild times if you ever get around some of the band kids or theater students). We’re both perfectly content with each other and neither of us have ever expressed the need/want for an outside partner, however this situation is different. I’d really like for my wife to have the experiences she never got to when she was younger because of the extreme judgement she not only got from her family, but put into herself. We’ve discussed the idea more and more recently, specifically surrounding this girl and my wife is very open to bringing her in for sex with the possibility of a throuple if it came about.

My questions are how does one help there partner out with exploring something so gated off to them? Also is it the right time to discuss the possibility of me having another partner that I have a preference of bringing in? The last one, what type of ENM relationship would this be considered if it was specifically the two of us and only one outside party being brought in for sex as I doubt the idea of swinging is particularly interesting to either of us. Again thanks for your time if you read this far and sorry it was so long. I truly care for my wife and regardless of if we actually do open the marriage up which I’m completely okay with not, I want her to be protected and loved the entire way through her journey in her sexual awakening/trauma healing from the years of repressed emotions.