Long story short I (34F) am coming off meds that have pretty awful withdrawal symptoms. This includes physical symptoms such as mild electric shocks (brain zaps), brain fog, lethargy and emotional ones such as my mood in general being really dysregulated and at times leaving me numb or breaking down (tears, sobbing etc).

My (38m) partner is supportive to an extent, but I say that because I am in general always been the more emotional one and that isn't easy for the other partner who is more stoic. I'm coming to a real significant part of the tapering in that I'm about to stop taking it entirely. Its been weeks of reducing dosages and frequency. In short I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted by it and am not coping at times (seeing my doctor again for additional help). At the same time it seems my partner is amping up his activities. We date separately, and these past few months I've given him more room for more and now he's expressing he wants to do group stuff post haste (having gone on a threesome date the other week, sadly did not eventuate).

I'm trying to find a sense of stability on this journey, andI feel like if we slowed things down or paused momentarily it could help, but I dont know if that is selfish to ask for? I'm someone who actively works on their jealousy (have gotten way better) and I self regulate and don't obsess, but now my emotions are off kilter and I'm extremely sensitive, it's becoming harder to do this during my period of transition.

My partner and I communicate, often instigated by me, but I'm scared if I voice this feeling he will be resentful that my personal challenges at this time will cause resentment in him towards me for affecting his fun.

Has anyone had a similar experience of medication and ENM and how that has gone? I feel like folks may say it's up to me to sort my shit and let him live his life, and I get that. We are two separate people with our own wants and desires, who am I to affect or change his?