Hello, some background: my partner and I opened just over a year ago, we had a very fuzzy agreement because we hadn't been ENM before and didn't really know what to expect. This (predictablely) caused a decent amount of pain as we both had some misunderstandings about the different aspects of the agreement. Decided to press pause with my partner maintaining one of her relationships but not escalating further (I believe this is called a vessel), heal a bit together, and are now looking to reopen with more experience.

We are planning on sitting down this weekend to start working on an agreement, does anyone have a good resource for building effective NM agreements? So far we have leafed through the jealousy workbook and found it lacking, as well as a few examples online but didn't like them either for various reasons.