Hey Reddit,

I (early 30s, F) went to a super sexy party a few weeks ago with my partner (early 30s, M). We ended up taking someone home and had a absolutely amazing time, and have decided to stay in touch with our new sexy playmate.

Here's the snag: after following her on Instagram, I realized that we have a friend that follows her. That mutual is my partner's very best friend (small world). I asked her if she knew him, and she said only online. He simps for her on all her online platforms and that seems to be the extent of their relationship.

My question is: Should we tell him we have been with her? This is strictly a vanilla friendship and we do not talk about sexy stuff with this person. My partner and I feel the need to get this off our chests and talk to him, but we are struggling with the best way to do so.

I am having this weird feeling that it is potentially going to cause a rift in our friendship because he has gotten his hopes up about eventually getting with this girl, despite talking to her since 2019 and nothing ever happening. He sends her fap videos, which is more than I needed to know, honestly.

He has only told her to "come over sometime" but never sets a date (and doesn't really seem to consider any other aspects of seeing this person, other than to fuck).

How do we broach this? TIA (cross-posted to r/sluttyconfessions)