Me (M21) and my partner (NB20) have a fantastic relationship, but in our sex life there are some issues with how often my partner wants to have sex due to being asexual. They said they love having sex with me, but the idea of sex grosses them out and they could go without it forever if I didn't want it. And when I do, 80% of the time, they're not in any kind of mood. And they treat it so casual that it feels like there's not enough emotional connection in it. My partner also wants me to treat them more masculine as if they're a man in order to turn them on enough for sex. And when we do have sex, there's a massive limit on what they want to do. They don't like cum unless it's inside them because they want to get pregnant but I'm not ready for that. They don't like anal and a lot of kinky stuff is tied to past trauma with previous partners. They also have a lot of pain during sex which limits how often we can have it when they DO want it.

I don't want to disrespect my partner, but everyone keeps mentioning open relationships or breaking up so I don't know.