I am 23 and I have been questioning my preferred relationship type recently and it's been a lot to process. After being single for a year I felt ready to enter the dating scene again, and that opened the door to casual sex which I really enjoyed.

After that I started experiencing some kind of FOMO, basically afraid I will miss casual sex and the freedom once I get into an exclusive relationship. I though that if I get in a relationship with someone who is open to some sort of a sexually open relationship, I can have the best of both worlds.

So I changed the setting on dating apps to ENM instead of monogamy and told ppl on or before first date. I realized immediately that I dismissed my dating pool significantly 😄 and I guess I am having FOMO in another way, I am afraid of passing on a great partner for a relationship style preference that I am not even sure will work, but want to try.

I am not sure how to figure out how important being sexuallg non monogamous to me in a comitted relationship without trying it, but having it as a deal breaker seems to get in the way of many potential relationships that could otherwise work. Any insight or advice is welcome <3