Hey all, question. I’m married 31F to my Hubz 33M. My boyfriend and I are fluid bonded.

A) is this something I should have “approval” of from my husband? We talk about it but are both on different footing about sexual safety. We all have gotten tested relatively every three months for the past 8 months.

B) my boyfriend (more play party/dating fan than me) also has another girlfriend who is also a huge fan of sexual parties/workshops etc.

Question: If condoms and testing every 3 months is done, is this too risky of a sexual situation. And yes I know abstinence is the safest (lol) but idk, am I putting my risk and there fore husband at risk?