My husband and I (both in our mid 60s) opened last year after 20 years of marriage. I found my play partner first. After seeing a few ladies over the course of the year, he finally found the right partner for his play. We remain deeply committed to our marriage and see opening as a gift of true love to each other.

While I love my husband very much and he is the person that I want to grow old with, there are things that I enjoy sexually, socially and otherwise that we do not share. Having a like minded play partner allows me to once again enjoy those things with another. I return to the loving arms of my husband happy and he returns to me more and more loving each time he sees his play partner.

There is no deceit being open ENM style. It delights me that I know my husband will have an enjoyable time with his friend when he is with her. Both of our partners are in committed relationships themselves. From all reports on their sides, this is working well for them too.