Hey peeps! Anyone has fearful avoidant attachment style and currently in an open ENM relationship? How do you manage your triggers when sexually and emotionally bond with a new partner?

My primary partner is submissive, however, I have a strong attraction to switch-leaning-dominant type of sexual partners. I tend to get emotionally bonded very fast with a dominant sexual partner, which is extremely frustrating as I know I need plenty of communication (and attention) to not trigger my fearful avoidance. My high sex drive is not helping the case here as I yearn for sex and to be dominated on bed.

I know what I want now in my sexual relationships but I lack the tool kit to vet potential partners. Sure I can address to the new potential partners from the get go about wanting ongoing connections, about my fearful avoidant attachment style and what can trigger it. But what else can I do to protect myself emotionally and mentally while getting my needs met?