I’m looking for stories, thoughts, and advice.

So, I’m (f,28) part of a larger friend group (been part of the group for about a year now), and I’m interested in someone in that friend group who is ENM too, their partners are also my friends in that group.

My partner (m,31) and I are new to this, so I’m inexperienced with pursuing people in the ENM community, much less friends!

I have also never dated other women having been closeted most of my life. Due to this, I’ve been struggling to interpret certain encounters with my friend as flirting/showing interest or that she is just being friendly… it’s hard lol

I’m worried about asking if she’s interested in exploring being more than friends and it resulting in ruining the friendship dynamic we all have if it’s not reciprocated. I know we would all continue to be friends, and it would be fine if not reciprocated. But you know… things would just feel different after that in an uncomfortable way…

Have you ever gone about expressing interest in a friend? Has a friend ever expressed interest in you? Tell me the story, good/bad/nuetral, how did it go?