I’m having a sorta conundrum….? I’m seeing some people in a friends with benefits style and recently I was trying to think about my boundaries with them to maintain the friendly dynamic rather than see it stray into romantic territory…. And I’m kinda struggling.

The reason is that when I consider the difference between my friendships and romantic relationships sex seems to be the only defining factor, I suppose there is a romantic feeling but when I think about behaviour and actions it’s just sex? And as I stated before even that isn’t because I’m clearly doing that with friends too…

Like id do date style activities with my friends, I like holding hands, cuddling and physical contact, I tell them things which are intimate or deep, I hope to go on holidays with my friends in the future and maybe even share life plans like living together, having kids together, end of life care etc etc…

So this kinda contradicts my FWB relationship, maybe time is the only factor or compatibility? Maybe it’s just a gut feeling I could or will fall in love?

I’m not sure if this makes sense but can you see where I’m coming at this from? Maybe this is just relationship anarchy?

Anyhow I’m struggling to see where I can draw boundaries to avoid romantic attachment…maybe I shouldn’t be forcing this disconnect and should just go with the flow but I don’t feel ready to be in a romantic relationship. Maybe I’m just struggling with commitment issues or expectations.

Any advice? Please be kind :)

(Also I’m bi for context)