hey everyone! i’m trying to navigate a dicey situation with a “fwb”. we’ve been sleeping together for about 2 years, we are best friends, and see each other every 2-3 months for about a week. we talk everyday and seem very “coupley” to other people. so many of our issues seem like serious relationship issues in an ENM/open context. we’ve discussed our drop in flirting, our decrease of sexting, what we can/cannot do with other people. to me, these issues take on much more serious grounds than a typical “fwb” or even situationship. we discuss this issues thoroughly and try to get on the same page. however, we still have zero commitment to each other. we tell each other that we are the favorites, the priorities, the number ones. but, for him, ENM and open relationship are off the table.

am i crazy? are we just in one of these but he refuses to acknowledge the reality?

we’re allowed to see other people and do what we want. the idea is that if one of us wants to start dating, we will simply close off that part of us and focus on the new person. that seems harmful to me. in fact, i know ill be really hurt by that.

i think i just need some third party opinions on what this looks like from the outside