Ok, so need advice. I’ve recently run into at least two different outgoing, intelligent, sexy couples while out on the town. Scene set up is this… I’m usually sitting at the bar, looking great of course. A couple sits next to me and we get into a chat. The chat turns out engaging and amazing, and hopefully we exchange numbers and plan to get in touch later. There’s just something about having really great conversation with a couple and feeling their chemistry. It is wonderful, and super hot.

In each of these instances, I realized that I was very turned on and that it’d be super interesting to make out with not just one but both of them, at the same time. I fantasize about making out with the girl while the guy watches, or the opposite. I wouldn’t be interested in being intimate with the girl alone, as I don’t really consider myself gay or even Bi. The man would have to be present and participating in some way to make it interesting for me. I would be intimate with the guy only if his girl were ok with it and if I were attracted to him like that. Overall though, the overwhelming sense is that I’d want both of them, if they were game and wanted me too.

So is this a thing? How would I initiate dating a couple or telling them that’d I’d be interested? I don’t want to sound stupid here and apologize if I do. I have never been intimate with more than one person at a time, so this would be all new to me. I’ve heard of people going out on dates with couples, and I was genuinely confused as to how anyone would be attracted to two people who were dating each other as a unit. Now i feel like I understand a little bit more about that dynamic. This is kind of exhilarating, as I discover something so new about myself. I can be attracted to a couple… like, who knew?! 🤗🥰😚

Also does the fact that I’d be willing to be intimate with a woman for sake of the man’s and/or couple’s pleasure mean that I’m “heteroflexible”? I’ve never really understood that term tbh. For context, I am in an ENM marriage and my husband would be happy to support me in any such situation that I desired with another person, or persons in this case. Also, I recently had an STI scare, with all negative and squeaky clean results. However, the experience left me wanting to explore none penetrative sexual relations with people for a start, as I don’t want to feel like I need to sleep with everyone I’m interested in. In this case, am I asking to make out or “cuddle” with new partners? I’ve been confused about what cuddling refers to as well. Obviously sort of a newbie here so please be gentle with me. Thanks!