my partner and i have been practicing enm since the start of our relationship (we’re open sexually, but neither of us are seeking nor want other romantic partners). initially, we were just hooking up and started to get much closer (i fell in love HARD. i mean it when i say this is the best and most communicative relationship i’ve ever been in) until we finally decided to date. we were both seeing other people before making it official, so enm while in a relationship just felt like a natural progression.

later this month, i’ll be moving an hour away from him for a unspecified period of time. i think this is contributing to a lot of my fears surrounding our relationship. they recently started seeing a new person, and i have been Riddled with anxiety about it. he constantly reassures me that all he wants is sexual variety and he is not going anywhere in terms of our relationship. logically, i believe them, and that’s how i feel too! but for some reason i just can’t shake my worries and jealousy. i genuinely want him to enjoy himself, but at the same time, it’s really difficult to hear that he had a good time lol. sometimes my jealousy comes off as passive aggressiveness, which i really dislike about myself.

i really don’t want to project my fears onto him, or make him feel bad for seeking new partners. i guess i just want to know, does enm get easier over time? how can i be a better partner and curb my jealousy in a healthy manner? this is my first enm relationship, so a lot of these feelings are uncharted territory for me.