I (44m) have been married to my wife (41) for 20 years. 2 kids and busy jobs. About 8 months ago she was telling me about the smutty book she was ready that had a MMF relationship. She joked I might like to try it. I went with it. Saying you never know. But the conversation continued with lack of sexual partners because we’ve been together so long.

So being interested I read books and article about ENM and poly life. She said she can’t see her swinging. But maybe one guy that’s trusted that plays with us both.

My question is, is it legit to try to find a bi guy that’s willing to play with both of us and not try to form an emotional relationship with him. Really just setup times to play and not make it a relationship situation? Does that make sense?