As a preface, I am a 20-something woman in an ENM relationship for about 8 months. A lot of ENM makes sense to me. I have never been someone who dreamt of marriage and monogamy, and just the thought of having to commit exclusively to one person for the rest of my life seems like a tall task. I am still new to ENM, and have occasional-to-frequent pangs of jealousy or anxiety regarding the stability of the relationship, I can say that this current relationship has been the most communicative with regards to my concerns. And honestly, a lot of my anxiety and worries come from 1) societal messaging that monogamous relationships = the most stable, honest, and communicative relationship dynamic and 2) my own wounds that I am working through in therapy. I can reflect and say that I probably lean "monogamish" if anything, though I'm not entirely opposed to having deeper connections with others if it leans that way.

HOWEVER, I really despise the arena of modern dating, especially as someone who is 1) pretty hetero and 2) can get picky about who I date. I don't have any problems finding individuals who are attracted to me, but I find that I am not attracted to them, or the conversations get brought into sexual territory immediately. Long story short, I'm tired of dating and I'm discouraged with my experience, and I truly wish that I could make more meaningful and significant conversations while weeding out the awful people!