My wife and I of 15 years recently underwent a rough patch of infertility followed by me having some mental health issues that weighed unfairly on her. We have gotten back on track and spent some time thinking through our marriage. Eventually we arrived at ENM and agreed to try. However, I can't help but feel that we should have waited a little longer - maybe another 6-12 months of things being on solid ground before making the plunge.

Ultimately, the reality is that she wants this and I am having doubts. I really don't think I can devote attention to multiple partners without feeling bad about myself or my relationships. I also do not want to withhold her desire to explore other relationships and sexual interests.

We have recently discussed divorce together. We're both in counseling. I'm mainly writing for advice, perspectives, and links to other anonymous groups that can support people navigating this for the first time.

I'll do my best to respond to comments seeking clarity or context.

Thanks in advance.