So I have this dear lady friend, she’s like in the top 5 people I have ever been attracted to. It’s been years of pining for her. (We all have at least one of those in our lives, don’t we?)

Anyway, she knows I’m in an open marriage and even has expressed attraction, but does not want to start a sexual relationship because she wants someone to herself. Fine. I’m a grownup and can deal, and want to be her friend anyway because she’s amazing.

Anyway, the other week she introduced me to a friend of hers. I had an instant attraction. We’ve been texting and flirting a little.

Not positive, but pretty sure original one told this new lady that I was open.

I have plans to get together with lady two, but the the thought occurs to me that if I tell her my full story, then make a move, and she is, well, open to an open thing with me, friend one will find out and get jealous. Even though she has already rejected me that way. She just may be that type of personality.

Don’t know what to do. Don’t want to lose friendship number one, but lady two makes me kinda tingle. Oy.

Meanwhile, I bemuse my wife with my tales of these junior high school type crushes. (I’m 62) And she agrees lady one is the jealous type.

Any similar stories with ideas of how to tread lightly?