I didn't know much about who to talk to about, so I decided to come to this sub because it seemed appropriate.

I have been in a non-monogamous relationship with someone for a few years. I am a person who feels a lot of sexual attraction and sees it as having some importance, while the person I am in a relationship with is asexual.

She explained to me a few times how it works and during our relationship, we still had some sex in the few moments when she felt that way.

Of course, my frequency has always been higher and it can never match 100% of that, but as mentioned before, we are non-momogamous and I have always had the freedom to match that in other people.

For a while now, she said that she no longer wanted to have any type of sexual relationship precisely because of her asexuality and because that is how she really feels. I completely respect her asexuality but I was still very sad about it.

Even though I can look for this in other people, my sexual attraction to her is still very strong, and it's a connection I've always wanted to maintain.

I want to maintain a relationship with her because I really value everything we have, and I would like to receive some advice on how to detach this sexual image from her, and not be frustrated by something beyond my control.