There has to be a ENM dating site or app professionals, right? There just has to be. Please tell that there is, please. Lol.

I've been trying to find a partner that is into ENM that also matches my lifestyle and career-level. I've been using a couple of sites for "elite singles" (hate that term but it is what it is) and while I have no problem finding men who match with me, as soon as talk of ENM comes into play, they either ghost me, become possessive, or say that they'll only ever be okay MFF's. Obviously none of those are going to work for me.

I've gone through all of OKCupid, Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble in my area (or at least I think I have lol) and for the ones who advertise ENM, they not my type. At all. The men I match with who do not advertise ENM, are just looking for a hookup or will state that they are not okay with ENM ever, which is fine but obviously not a match. I don't plan on trying to change anyone so I say my respectful good-byes with them.

I've gone to just about every meet up (and literal MEETUP) in my area for all things ENM; from poly to swinging to munches to sex-positive to kink and it's EXACTLY. THE. SAME. PEOPLE. and again, none of them are my match.

A few months ago, I was told about these exclusive dating sites for professional singles and while expensive (and they are) they've also provided me with a greater pool of possible matches, but zero ENM. Maybe I need to move to San Francisco? Lol.

It's probably worth mentioning that at this point, I am steering clear of poly.