As someone with an 'anxious-leaning' attachment style, I often struggle with uncertainty about my partner's availability. This tendency is rooted in childhood experiences of inconsistent emotional presence from my parents, and it is a topic that I have been working on with a therapist.

Specifically, I tend to feel tense and anxious when my primary partner goes on a date and doesn't check in with me the following day - or does not give a clear indication of when we will be seeing each other again. During these moments, I find myself longing for some reassurance from my partner. However, I block myself from reaching out because I fear appearing needy or clingy and want to be able to regulate my own emotions until he decides to reconnect with me. This internal conflict often leaves me feeling uncomfortable and stressed. Can anyone else relate to this experience? How do you cope with it?

I recognize that this is primarily 'my problem,' especially considering that my partner provides me with ample affirmation at other times. However, I'm seeking strategies to better manage these feelings and navigate this aspect of my attachment style.