I am just getting out of a 10 year marriage, it’s been five months and I recently started dating someone who is in an open marriage. He has been very clear about the structure of his wife and his situation, they both love each other still, and have children together but the wife was unhappy and they decided to open the marriage a few years ago.

She currently has a boyfriend that she’s been seeing for almost a year, he has had a girlfriend which that relationship lasted for almost a year as well. They have just started being able to integrate their partners into their family structure, so he has expressed that if this moves further, he would like for me to meet his family.

My question is, how do I navigate moving forward in this if I know that it’s a possibility that I will fall for this person? I know that communication is important, and I don’t have a problem doing, but there is still an underlying question of crossing boundaries and the possibility of not getting my needs met fully.

I’d also like to state that I have always wanted to be in an ENM marriage, I just never thought about being the partner to someone in an ENM marriage.

If anybody has any suggestions on questions that I should ask before moving forward or boundaries that I should set for myself, I would be greatly appreciative.