Hi, I am looking to learn more about what ENM means and what it looks like outside of polyamory? I myself identify as poly but my partner is ENM and I want to understand concepts of casual love better . This is also doubly frustrating as I am also dealing with being cheated on by the same partner which makes it all the more harder for me to center their ENM in a way where I do not feel threatened and also truly understand their definition and needs.

Being poly, I as a person who really looks toward building close bonds that last long as well both platonically and romantically which is why the concept of casual love is a bit confusing but i am not opposed in any way, just need more info and sort of lived experiences over textbook definitions that make no sense in personal contexts.

I also know well that ENM and poly looks different in a lot of different cases and with different people. I am only speaking for myself here when i say i seek deep and long connections in my polyamory and i do not have experience at all with casual love. Casual sex yes but not casual love.

Please help?