So, my husband and i have been in the LS for almost 5 yrs and have always played/dated together (yes, we're swingers. Even though we hate that label)

We're on all the sites/apps and the sheer number of men who initially mention that "we typically play solo but will consider couples if the vibe is right" is ridonk.

And when we do match and the subject comes up about doing a double date, he immediately tells me that his partner plays solo and is doing her own thing but won't you consider me for a MFM.

Dude, do you realize that i downgraded my preferences to seek couples? If i wanted single guys, i can get hot six-pack packin guys. You were never my type and telling me that your partner is unavailable or that she doesn't like my husband will not move me.

Rant over. (Sorry. Had a bunch of 50 something year old middle aged men try their shot with me and i had a good chuckle.)