I would love to get advice from only people who have partners that are neurodivergent like ADHD, AU etc. Well my wife and I opened up to ENM a year ago. Right now we are mostly online still understanding our likes and don't likes about this lifestyle. Sex has been amazing, discovering our kinks and everything. We have been going through uneasy life circumstances and that has took a hit on our communication because we don't have much time together . Unfortunately she tends to disassociate and hyper fixate a lot, the tougher things get the deeper she goes. And she is naturally selfish which I'm ok with, which we all are in certain ways. So since we barely have time for each other I asked her if we could take a pause on ENM so we could you know, regroup and draw strength from each other and get back to it when we got these problems resolved and maybe move forward to irl dating . She told me she couldn't stop because her brain doesn't work like that , which I respect , that she can slow down which she has tried to. But in the beginning she broke our first rule which was to not fall in love with someone she met in a chat we are one together. Then she met someone else she is super hyper fixated on but I respect him because he is experienced and keeps his boundaries. But she neglect the basics around us and barely talks to me sometimes. How do you guys deal with spouses that have hyper fixate ? Should I just keep doin my thing and let her be? Which makes me concerned because when we move to irl dating would she be able to handle it? Or disappear like we are 2 passing ships. Im I wrong for asking for a pause here? How different do you guys handle things with neurodivergent partners?