Hello, new friends. Thanks in advance for your input.

I guess we are a stag / vixen couple - I’m not a fan of labels. 44m/46f and we have been looking at swinging. We’ve had one encounter with a single guy for MFM (she didn’t meet him prior to the hotel) and some conversations with couples that haven’t led anywhere. A hotel takeover that was too much too fast (anxiety issues/ crowds). The thing is the missus “just wants to get fucked”. She doesn’t want the meet n greet, chatting, dating, club scene, etc. the “connection” prior to playtime is not something she needs or wants. At first we were going to leave the D/s stuff at home, but now I’m thinking if we want to explore let’s lean into our kink and make the situation work for us.

Is this a thing that is receptive to others? If I’m doing all the vetting, talking, arranging, and she may or may not even want to share a name or even her face? She’d be there as our fucktoy only (she likes the idea). I know there are plenty of single guys and of course I’ll aim to keep the crazy away, but is this too kinky that people will run from us? What about at a hotel takeover? Will others be ok with me sharing her at my discretion if we aren’t interested in the rest of the party? (Of course, she’ll always have the ability to safe word or just call a timeout).

My goal is to get 2-3 regulars that will eventually be able to get to know us (or at least her body). If I’m willing to put in the time vetting is this a likely positive outcome? Anyplace to research this kind of stag/vixen dynamic?