My wife and I have 2 kids. She's seeing someone that lives with family and helps take care of her nephew. Just because of child care, and work, and schedules there is not a practical time that either of our houses are empty and available for a long period of time. They've gotten a motel room together once, but that is impractical for money reasons.

I have told my wife that I am okay with them coming to our house while I am here. I can't completely disappear, but I can make myself scarce. If they're in the living room I can go to the office and play on the computer. If they want to go to the bedroom I can go to the living room and watch something or play a game.

The woman she's seeing is fine with this (in fact, her words were "He could be in the bed right next to us and I'd still fuck you"). But my wife says she finds it weird and uncomfortable for me to be there, and I can understand this. It's an intimate moment between them, and while I'm not going to be standing at the door with my ear pressed up to it, I might still be able to hear some of what goes on. She thinks that she would feel anxious and like she couldn't be herself.

And before anyone asks... no, I do not have a friend's house I can go to. There's really not anywhere for me to go. So how do y'all do this?