Have you started an ENM/poly relationship with the stated intention that you’d like to be primary partners assuming things work well?

I’m not new to poly/ENM dynamics, but this is a new situation for me, so I’d love to hear what you’ve learned, what you wish you knew, and any perks of starting out this way.

Topics of particular interest: 1) deciding what form of non-monogamy you want and agreeing on boundaries/expectations 2) making enough time for this relationship to grow while still maintaining existing connections & fostering newer, more casual ones 3) navigating group play dynamics when you have other existing partners who fill that role 4) ideas on love, cohabitation, and marriage 5) anything I don’t know I don’t know 😂

I’ve previously seen many posts about opening a relationship / moving from monogamy toward ENM. However, it seems like a different challenge to begin a relationship with a potential primary partner when you’re both already practicing non-monogamy in some way (read: different ways bc we all do this differently).

Thanks in advance for sharing your experience!