A little context... I'm ethically non-monogamous, I'm also not that long out of an emotionally abusive marriage - I've done a lot of work in therapy etc to heal from that, but I still haven't felt in a position to have any sort of 'serious' relationship since for all sorts of reasons... I do, however, have needs 🤣 & have been able to devise for myself a situation where I have (currently) 3 regular sexual partners that are all (in subtly different ways) basically a friends with benefits type situations where there is definitely a connection there, but it doesn't go beyond friendship & sexual desire ....... At least until recently...

Also, before I go on, I totally get that I should be talking to the guy in question about this, & I intend to when the time is right, I just am looking for some perspective on this in the meantime as I don't trust my own judgement after some of the things I've been through 🙈

So, one of my partners, who I've only met pretty recently, I both feel like I've had some more serious feelings for & I'm wondering if he is maybe feeling the same. It's also just insane to me as he is absolutely gorgeous, very very good in bed (& well aware of it in the way that he just logically knows he's good without being conceited about it), a great guy in all sorts of other ways ... & I'm not sure why he would ever be interested in me 🤣 but that's a whole other conversation...

As I say, I've had some feelings myself, which I am ok with - I've had it before with sexual partners where I've realised the potential for more serious feelings but just dealt with that & kept things casual & it's all good. But then this guy has started saying a few things - for example, when texting this evening, he told me he's an open book & to ask him any questions I want because he wants us to get to know each other. We've only had a couple of 'hookups' so far but they've lasted all afternoon/evening & on each occasion we've talked a lot in between & after & have got pretty deep & meaningful about some of the things we've each been through in the past. He's started asking how I might feel about him staying over some time, & then said he would like to spend a weekend together - he was even talking about a trip he'd like to do one day & the way he said it made me think he was scoping out to see if I might be interested...

So what I'm wondering is, is he thinking all this in terms of it still just being sex, or if he thinking about more than that?? Again, I know I need to talk to him about it to be sure, but am I crazy for reading into his recent conversations as sounding like he's interested in more?? I wish I could trust my own judgement better but I've been so wrong about things in situations in the past that I just can't be sure any more 🙈