Just really frustrated atm so bear with me here.

Apps tried: Feeld, Tinder, OKCupid, Bloom, Hinge, Reddit (not looking here!).

Sites tried: Facebook, Kasidie, Swinglifestyle, Fetlife, and AdultFriendFinder. I know 3/4 are hookup sites but I'm really just trying to find people.

Physical meets/events: Munches (fetlife), two swinger clubs (Privata and Sanctuary - both are in PDX), and a handful of poly meets, sex positive meets, and dating meets (all through Bloom and Facebook).

The issue is that seemingly everyone I come across is a cut-paste of the same three types of people that I am not attracted to, either physically or mentally or both. I don't want to distract with the specifics of what I'm looking for or not, just that all of the above led to people that would not work.

I should also mention that I've tried 'normal' dating but I'm not one to lie about my desire to be in an ENM relationship so those usually end within the first few messages.

TYIA