for starters: I embrace the word ‘slut’ and so does everyone I know [berlin. lol]. it isn’t a slur to me, but I guess I need not explain that to y’all. if it matters; 29M.

I’m looking for some wider perspective on this, in a safe-ish space where I can openly describe this without fearing judgement.

I spent years in long, deeply loving monogamous relationships. in the past few months (having been single for 2 years) I’ve started sleeping around so much that I’m going home with somebody new a minimum of 2/3 times a week. I’ve noticed that the longer this goes on for, the less I can feel.

while I love sex, and the excitement and play, and really connect with people; it’s started to feel like I’m lying in bed afterward, cuddling a block of wood. I’m not even the person initiating most of the time. I’m fairly lucky in various surface-level ways, and suck at saying no. so I can’t put it down to some sort of addiction.

tl;dr - has anyone experienced this in a slutty period? is there some causal link? should I stop hooking up with people? nobody I sleep with goes further in my heart than friendship (very different to the past 10 years of my life).