My brother went NC with my mom and me a few years ago. He is married to his girlfriend he had at the time, she comes from a snobby rich family, and she was super judgey of everything we did when she visited. My mom and my brother never got along or saw eye to eye.

My brother has done some crappy things. Like he rented two apartments in college and stole my mom’s money to pay for it. He then came home and said “He had nothing to be sorry for”.

But then his wife and him got some counseling and his therapist said my mom was the cause of his Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style. Knowing about that stuff now, she is probably right. But he left me too, he never cared about me. And now I am living at home and she talks about how crappy of a person my brother and dad are, and then compares me to them when she gets upset with me.

I tried to call my brother and help him see how I see the situation and apparently he never did anything wrong in his eyes.

I don’t know how to think about this situation or if I should ever try to make a relationship with my brother again