Adult queer POC man in my late 40s here...

I am approaching year 4 of no communication and I am apathetic about the sitch currently. I get regular texts but I don't get "how can I make this better? What have I done?" - only "I love you, I miss you".

About me: Dad was a Boomer (deceased) and I am estranged from my Boomer mother who lacks accountability for her behavior, has an outsized sense of entitlement and has little EQ to make amends for her actions.

Due to cultural norms, I "should" want to do whatever my mom demands of me without much gratitude in return. Most folks, who know about the situation, argue "at the end of the day, that's your mom" - wrong answer!

Sister subscribes to the norm but feels similarly--she goes along, to get along and would rather have 'peace'.

(BTW: Our estrangement has little to do with my queerness, though it is a small layer in this fecal sandwich)

Are there any other POC and/or queer estranged kids here that can empathize?

In general, how are y'all dealing with the holidays?