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I'm nearly 3 years out, I'm in counseling and still making progress.
However, 3 years out, every so often the anger or pain still really hits me and I want to make her feel it, and obviously I resist that. It doesn't lead anywhere. It would lower me to even consider engaging with her. But my god is it sometimes tempting to try and hurt or manipulate her just a tiny fraction as much as she hurt me - with total impunity.
Btw by hurt her I mean tiny dumb things like calling her names. She called me lazy stupid cruel horrible nasty, I never called her anything. But now I want to tell her she's a stupid miserable bitch.
I guess that's why I'm still going to counseling. Anyone else understand this feeling?
Edit: thank you everyone for the responses - it sounds like we all have similar boats and mostly are trying to break the cycle by letting go of anger instead of being angry people. Luck to all of us! 🙏🏻🌟
The best revenge is to live my best life without giving a single fuck about the family I’m estranged from.
However my ex wife and son are a different story
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I didn’t grab my pitchfork and I’m guessing the assumption is I’m at fault for the estrangement and not my ex moving to another state with my child and then withholding access