I recently went NC with my mother. I have been LC with her for a long time now, maybe a few years. And I've been more and more open on social media about being not-entirely-cis-and-straight. My extremely conservative mom finally confronted me and asked if I had anything to share, and I took the opportunity to come out as trans.

Things did not go well. I may have gotten a little defensive and implied the reason she was the last to know is that I had good reason to believe she would be less than accepting. This escalated into a multi-paragraph rant about how she must have done something wrong if I thought that about her, etc, yadda yadda, you've all heard it on this sub.

At the urging of the few understanding family members I still talk to from that branch of the tree, I sent her one more message. I didn't apologize for being trans, but I at least admitted my accusatory tone didn't help. I left the door open for if she wanted to talk. I've been left on read for over a month, which is mostly fine by me. She'd have been deadnaming me the whole time anyway.

Since then, I've been cutting back on Facebook and other social medias where family follows me, and focusing on places where I'm fully out. It's been a lot happier being known only by my chosen name and real gender.

That said, a week or two ago, my two half-siblings followed me on Instagram within minutes of each other. The only other people I have on that account are friends and a coworker or two, so I've been free and open about who I am. But with the timing, I'm getting concerned. My sister has always been nice enough, if not really sharing any of my interests. But my half brother takes after his dad(who is no longer in the picture, it's a long, racist story). So I have no reason to believe he'd willingly want to see my left-wing, trans lesbian thoughts on his social media feed.

Should I be concerned? Should I block them for fear that they're "reporting" on me to my EM? Should I ask my (very understanding, can't stress it enough) uncle if he knows? I'm getting stressed out, it feels like I'm being followed by her into a safe place, after she, under no uncertain circumstances, rejected me. Anyone have any advice? If it IS benign, I don't want to shut them out. But I also don't want my EM to be sitting there getting "status reports" about how gay and sinful I am.