Welcome to Erotic Massage!

We're getting tired of blocking so many posts that break our rules, so we think it's time to restate those rules and put them in a more visible location. (See below.)

But first we want to address the biggest problem we are seeing: a lack of sufficient information in the titles of R4R posts. A consistent format makes it much easier for people to scan this sub and spot the posts that fit their needs. This includes travelers who are less familiar with your area, but who plan to be near you soon.

To help people find your post and decide whether to read it and/or contact you, you will need to provide this information, in this order, IN THE TITLE OF YOUR POST:

• Your age (can be approximate, like "50s" or "40ish")
• "[" your sex "4" the sex of person you are looking for "]"
• "#" Location [City or county country or U.S. state] ":"
• State clearly whether you are looking for a teacher, seeking a massage, offering a massage, or looking for an exchange.
• Other relevant info, if any, such as a particular kind of massage and whether or not you can host.

For "sex," use the following:

• M = Male, F = Female, A = Any (any sex, you don't care)
• MF, FM, FF, MM, FA, MA = a couple
• NBM = non-binary AMAB, NBF = non-binary AFAB (recommended, not required)
• TM = f2m (trans male), TF = m2f (trans female) (recommended for all, but not required for providers)

Put it all in the title in the specified order. Like this:

50s [F4A] #Boston England: Seeking skilled provider for tantric massage at my place

New option: If you are offering a massage, you can substitute ">" for the 4. (As in "I give a massage TO you.") If you are seeking a massage, you can substitute "<" for the 4. (As in "I want a massage FROM you.") And if you want an exchange, you can substitute "<>" for the 4. So the above example would be:

50s [F<A] #Boston England: Seeking skilled provider for erotic massage at my place

If you make a post for someone else, write the first part of the title as if it is being written by the person who wants to actually give or receive the massage, even if that's your partner or a friend and you're asking on their behalf. So if you want to find a nuru massage for your 44 year old wife, you might say:

44 [F<M] #Dallas GA: Seeking Nuru massage for my wife at your place

Your own gender and age don't enter into it if you are not giving or receiving a massage.

If you are trans and seeking a massage: We recommend indicating "pre-op" or "post-op" to indicate whether you have had bottom surgery. Unlike a business or social setting, massage involves intimate contact, and experience has shown that it's important for participants to be open about their status to avoid misunderstandings.

For locations: Indicate a reasonable travel zone and avoid cryptic abbreviations and local nicknames. If you say "Canada" or "Texas" (without a city or county) or "DMV" or "SFV" or "bay area" or use airport codes in place of city/county names, your post will be blocked.

Many city, town, and county names are duplicated in other areas. There are EIGHT Orange Counties in the US alone, more than 40 places in the U.S. named Springfield, and more than 1,700 places in the world named San Jose! Even famous cities often share names with others (like Dallas Scotland, Paris TX, and London GA), so always include the country or the U.S. state.

In some other large countries, city and town names may also not be unique. In those cases, please include the name or designator of the district/state/territory/province as well as the country. For example, "Clinton BC Canada" or "Clinton Ontario Canada."

Acceptable nicknames & abbreviations:

• In the US: all standard 2-letter state abbreviations, plus "DC", "NYC NY", "LA CA", "OKC OK," and "SF CA"
• City states, very small countries, and 1-city and 1-island countries: DC, Monaco, San Marino, Singapore, Gibraltar, Barbados, etc. If everyone in your country is within a reasonable transit time, you don't need to break it down any further, especially if the city and country have the same name.
• "KL Malaysia", "BA Argentina", "Rio Brazil", "Mexico City", and other unique capitals or mega-cities that are well-known internationally by their nicknames & abbreviations. (But when in doubt, spell it out!)

• "London UK" and "London GB" are acceptable, but others in the UK should specify England, Wales, Scotland, or N.Ireland instead.

• LF = looking for

• FB = full body

• SM = sensual massage

• EM = Erotic massage

• incall = recipient travels to the massage provider's preferred location

• outcall = massage provider travels to recipient's preferred location

So "LF FBEM incall only" would mean "looking for a full body erotic massage at your place"

Examples of acceptable posts:

• 37 [M4F] #Boston, England: LF erotic massage

• 37 [M<F] #Boston, England: LF erotic massage

• 26 [F4F] #Paris, France: want to exchange yoni massages, can host

• 26 [F<>F] #Paris, France: want to exchange yoni massages, can host

• 40s [F4A] #Paris TX: offering nuru, tantric, and FB massages; my studio only

• 40s [F>A] #Paris TX: offering nuru, tantric, and FB massages; my studio only

• 29&31 [FM4FM/A] #Paris TN area: Want to exchange 4-hand or 6-hand erotic massages, can host or travel

• 29&31 [FM<>FM/A] #Paris TN area: Want to exchange 4-hand or 6-hand erotic massages, can host or travel

RULES

This is a place where you can search for or offer erotic massages and share reviews of massages you have received, but please observe our rules.

In particular:

1. Do not post porn that has no instructional value related to sensual or erotic massage. (There are links in the sidebar to massage porn subs.) If you do post an explicit video, please include text to explain why you think it has real instructional value.

2. If you are offering a massage, present yourself as a trustworthy provider who will abide by all client boundaries and not pressure the client for any sexual gratification. Do not post nudes or pornographic selfies or boast about your body.

3. If you make an R4R post, you must include in the title your age and sex/gender and a reasonably specific location, and describe what you are offering and/or what you are seeking. Avoid cryptic abbreviations and local nicknames, and specify the state or country for ambiguous town names.

4. Do not offer or ask for explicit sexual services for money. (What you arrange in private is up to you.) Do not refer to "happy endings" or similar terms in any post or comment.

5. Be civil at all times, regardless of what you may think is provocation. If someone is nasty to you, report it. DO NOT FLAME THEM.

6. Do not post email addresses, phone numbers, pictures of your face, or any other personally identifying information for yourself or anyone else.

7. Do not misrepresent yourself in any way. If you feel the need to fudge your age, use a range (30s, 50ish). Otherwise, stick to solid facts and don't make promises you aren't going to keep. Note: Obvious hyperbole ("World's best erotic masseur!!!") counts as misrepresentation. If in doubt, tone it down.

8. Do not promote products, websites, organizations, or causes or post anything that is off-topic.

If you violate these rules, your post will be blocked and you may be banned from the sub. The mods also reserve the right to block posts or ban anyone for conduct that in the mods' judgment is detrimental to the purpose of this sub.

Please hit the report button and let us know if someone violates these rules or if you have reason to believe that someone is using stolen images or is using posts or comments here to facilitate a scam.

THIS IS PART ONE. PLEASE READ PART TWO, OUR SUPPLEMENTAL FORMATTING GUIDE, AS WELL!