We're still seeing a lot of posts that are being rejected because of format problems or rule violations, so we would like to clarify some points and emphasize ways to avoid the most common errors.

1: LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION

If you are in the U.S., you MUST include the state. (The "U.S." is optional.) We don't care how unique or special you think your city is, if you don't include those two letters, your post will be blocked. If you argue about it, you will be banned. (Note: "DC" is a special case. It's both the city and the "state.")

If you are from another large country with multiple subdivisions, you MUST include the subdivision (province, territory, state, district, department, etc.) as well as your country.

If you are not from the U.S., you MUST include the name of your country unless your country is so small that it is synonymous with its main city (like Monaco).

You can use the nearest city, or a county, or a clear and reasonably compact geographic area (like "NE New Jersey"), but if you say "West Texas," expect your post to be blocked. That covers way too much territory and leaves readers with no clue to where you really are.

Also, our perennial reminder: DO NOT ABBREVIATE city or county names or use local nicknames. Just spell it out. If you give a location like "Philly," "DFW," "Bay Area," "LAX," or "Soho," your post will be blocked.

2: NEW FORMAT OPTION!!!

One of the most common reasons we reject posts is that they do not specify whether the poster is seeking a massage or offering one (or both). In the interest of making that easier to do and easier to remember, we're providing a new format option. From now on, you can use the "<" symbol to mean "seeking from" and the ">" symbol to mean "providing to." Use both ("<>") if you are looking for an exchange.

Like this:

[M<F] means "I'm a man seeking a massage from a woman"

[M>F] means "I'm a man offering to give a massage to a woman"

[M<>F] means "I'm a man seeking to exchange massages with a woman"

...and so on, for all the other gender combinations.

You can use these new format options or continue to use the "4" in the middle, but if you use the "4" format, you must remember to specify whether you are seeking or offering a massage!

Note: This does technically mean that you can make a very short post with nothing after the location ("33 [F>A] #Someplace Somewhere"), but we think you'll get more of a response if you include at least a little bit of text about what you are seeking or offering.

3: WHAT IF I'M MAKING A POST TO GET A MASSAGE FOR SOMEONE ELSE?

Write the title as if you were that person, and then explain at the end or in the text block. If you're looking for a man to give a massage to your 44yr old wife, you would say,

*44 [F<M] #Someplace Somewhere: Looking for a massage for my wife.

The reason is that if the massage is only for her and you write "MF<M" at the front, most straight men will stop reading at that point and never see your clarification.

4: WHAT IF I'M LOOKING FOR SEVERAL ALTERNATIVES?

We use the "/" to mean "or," so "F/MF" would mean 'a woman or a straight couple' and "F/FF/MF" would mean 'one or two women or a straight couple.' But please use "A" (for "any") instead of "M/F."

Also use "FA" for a couple with at least one woman, "MA" for a couple with at least one man, and "AA" to indicate a couple of any mix of genders. So "FM<>F/FA" would be one way to say 'a couple seeking to exchange massages with one or two women or a straight couple.'

If it gets any more complicated than that, please write a series of separate descriptions, or use text to describe what you're after.

5: "MASSEUSE" IS FEMININE; "MASSEUR" IS MASCULINE

Memory tip: it's like "actress," with an "s" sound at the end, and "actor," with an "r" sound at the end.

If you use either word, please don't confuse them. If you say...

"62 [M<F] #City State: Seeking skilled masseur"

... we will block it because of the contradictory genders. Ditto if you say you're looking for a "male masseuse" or a "female masseur." There's no such thing.

6: NO PORN OR EROTICA

This includes steamy "reviews." If you GET a massage and want to leave a review, keep it as factual and straightforward as possible. But if you GIVE massages, resist the temptation to leave steamy "reviews" of your own sessions.

7: DO NOT MENTION "HAPPY ENDINGS" OR ANY EXPLICIT SEXUAL SERVICES AND DO NOT OFFER OR ASK FOR PAYMENT WHILE ON THIS SUB

That includes the comments. We have to comply with U.S. rules. Don't make it hard on us or risk getting this sub shut down.

8: DO NOT SAY ANYTHING THAT MAKES A MASSAGE SEEM CONDITIONAL ON GIVING OR RECEIVING SEX

This is particularly important for men offering massages to women. The #1 reason why women do not ask for or accept massages from men is that they do not feel safe. In part this is because porn almost invariably shows the massage recipient giving an HJ or BJ or being fucked by the massage giver. Since they think there is going to be unwanted pressure to reciprocate in this way, they pass up the opportunity to receive a massage.

DO NOT say anything in your post to encourage the belief that you expect sexual services as payment for giving a massage. Anyone who offers a massage and mentions his dick, refers to himself as a "bull," or otherwise implies that he hopes for or expects sexual reciprocation will be instabanned as a danger to others.

This does not mean you can't look for someone who wants to exchange massages with you. You can. But leave it at reciprocal massages. No other actions or services should be offered or expected.

9: THIS IS A MASSAGE SUB, NOT A KINK OR HOOKUP SUB

Seriously. If you are into kink, BDSM, swinging, hookups, sugar daddies, whatever, there are subs for that. This one is for people who want to offer, receive, or exchange sexy massages. PERIOD!