This isn't about me. This is about all of us who have been ghosted, abused, or misunderstood.

The truth is, hypothetical Dom, that I want you.

I want you to hypnotize me. I want to give you my brain and open myself up until my reality is only exactly what you say it is. I want to trust you with my very being. I want you to shape and mold my thoughts the way you want. I want to think what you tell me to think. I want to believe what you tell me to believe. I want my body to respond to your wishes more reliably than it responds to my own. I want to feel helplessly controlled. I want that rush of being out of control. I want to be trapped as a passenger in my own body, watching as it does things without me. I want to give you all of me without hesitation.

But I can't.

I want to, but I can't. Not without trust. Not without rapport. Not without knowing that you'll take good care of me. Not without knowing that you have my best interest at heart. Not without knowing that you understand my desires and limits. Not without knowing that you care enough about me to put in the effort to make this a long-term fulfilling relationship that we can both enjoy. Not without friendship.

I get that you want submission. I get that you want to start right away. But let's make sure we get along before starting in on a power dynamic. Let's meet each other as people before we get started as master and servant, or mistress and pet, etc.. let's get to know each other on mutually respectful terms.

I want to be your toy.

But first I need to believe with all my heart, on a deep-seated subconscious level, that you're someone who takes care of their toys. Just imagine how much more powerful a connection we'll have if we start out this way! The possibilities of what we can accomplish when our hypnotic relationship has such a strong unbreakable foundation -- that gets my heart racing. I hope it gets yours racing too. But I won't know that about you on day one.

So please stop messaging me. I don't need another secretly-findom predator catfish with a spiral. But a friend? We could all use a friend.

And I'm sure I'm not alone in this opinion.

I hope I'm not alone in this opinion.

...

Am I?