Hi everybody, I'm looking for some advice on ongoing incidents at our barn. There's a lady that doesn't respect others boundaries at all.

Now she told me that she was feeding grain to the horse of a fellow boarder. That horse is on a strict diet due to laminitis and weight issues. Also the fellow boarder wasn't able to handle the horse for the last few weeks - now we might have an idea why. The lady knows exactly that the owner doesn't want the horse to consume grain so the lady fed the horse intentionally behind our back.

I told the owner of the barn that we need to talk about this issue. But I'm at my wits end and don't have any ideas on how to deal with such a person. Also I don't want her to know I told anybody as she's obviously interacting with our horses when we're not around.

As there were many incidents like the one described, I already tried talking, explaining, involving the barn owners, screaming at the lady....well obviously nothing worked as she's convinced she's doing animal welfare.

I'd appreciate any ideas on what to do now and what to ask from the barn owner.

Thank you in advance!