So some years ago ( over 20 ). I was in this social group and had a huge crush on this guy there. He had a geeky look to him and I was really in to that, honestly I still am...sadly the crush was only one sided since we were in our 20s, we did what 20 somethings do but he made it clear he wasn't interested in me. ..well 16 years ago or so we met up again and catch up...he's gained weight had some struggles with depression maybe some other stuff that I forgotten right now...but I remember sending him a compliment about still finding him sexy. This must have triggered him because he sent me a scathing message about how I should never contact him again, not use department resources to try and find him (I had just joined the police department). All of this came out of left field. I'm sure I was also blocked...either way...16 years later this whole thing still bothers me. Probably because I never got the closure to apologize for offending him. Also that he would think I would stalk him? Part of me keeps thinking, I want to reach out...logic tells me to just leave it alone. if I ever see him in public, just to walk the other way...any hints on how to handle my urge to apologize profusely when it hits? (I feel totally silly shareing this btw).