Throwaway account for anonymity sake.

One of my friends I can't help but wonder if she's being a bit much. She's not used to being treated kindly by people and has had a lot of trauma come up in the past month. A lot of the time she's showing me how she's talking me up or expressing her gratitude towards our friendship..yet I am not the only one who's expressed some level of discomfort. We already had extensive conversation about love bombing & her own intense self-criticism with no real signs of it stopping despite that. We're both empaths.

I know she means well and I am unbelievably grateful for her being around yet whenever she petnames, compliments or tries to be here for me emotionally I just shut down. I can't tell if my BPD is acting up, if she's being too much or if there's some other sensitivity I'm not aware of. I don't experience this with anyone else so I'm unsure of what to do.