My fiance told his dad we were eloping in general conversation the other day. No problems there and we knew that. My mom...different story. Telling her...or not telling her. Either way, it's going to be a problem. My dad will be okay with whatever.

I was having a conversation with my mother the other day about my best friend's daughter's graduation party. I said that I hoped BF had the turn out she was expecting because parties are so costly and time consuming to prep for. She agreed and stated that she's had many parties that weren't worth the money or time that was put into them because people didn't come. I thought that was a good time to test the waters... I said, "Yeah. That's one of the reasons Chris and I are considering not having an actual wedding." Her first response was, "Well, you could have a smaller wedding and just have a reception. I reminded her that was the expensive part when people don't show. She agreed and said, "No matter what. I want to be there." Well...she won't be there. That is not how we want to do things. We are in our 40s. We're paying for it. I've been married before. She got to help plan a wedding. She got to be there.

Our solution is to stream it for our parents.

So, I decided it's better to tell her beforehand, so she can get over her issue with it and enjoy the live stream if she wants than to not tell her until afterwards and have her flip out because she could have seen the live stream.

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I am not looking forward to this conversation.