I’m 45 and always believed ejaculation was something that I had no control over. After visiting a swinging club with my fiancée and witnessed her getting pounded by a guy for over 20 minutes I decided that’s what I wanted and if he could do it then why couldn’t I. I used to be on SSRI meds and could have sex without cumming. I didn’t need the medication and decided to come off it. Unfortunately, with this came PE. I could barely last more than a minute. This anxiety then gave me ED. Anyway, I joined the PE sub on here and then discovered this sub and the book that was mentioned. Over the last couple of month I’ve been using the Stamena app and purchased a fleshlight. I’ve been able to totally take control of my pelvic floor and I’ve gone from involuntary clenching to being able to relax my pelvic floor prior to crossing the PONR. I’ve adjusted my breathing too. Implemented pelvic floor stretches. I can last 25 mins with a fleshlight and last night was the first time ever that I felt I had some control when having sex. I used my fleshlight training when having sex. I didn’t manage the 20 min mark but what I did discover which I felt was revolutionary was that I was in total control!

I feel extremely positive now!