So i've noticed that for a community around edging, we're not really good with setting and respecting boundaries at times. Of course we're all super horny and very eager to slide into some dms with our dripping genitals, but since tastes and comfort levels differ among us, communication is key to make sure everyone is having fun! So strap in for this ride, thanks for having a read :D

Let's talk about consent baby, let's talk about you and me!

yupp, this might be a hard dick to swallow, but let's get the shitty stuff out of the way first. Sex is only sex if all parties are into it and agreed to what's happening. Things that are not okay:

• unsolicited dick pics / super detailed descriptions of sex acts. worse if you tell someone what you "want to do to them". big yikes.
• pressuring or guilt tripping someone. Usually looks something like this: "come on, it's just a pic! you don't even have to show your face!" or "aww but i'm so lonely. please don't block me, i promise i won't do it again :((((". just stop.

Remember that a no is a no and that's it. Nobody owes you their time and energy, or an explanation as to why they're not interested. Just because someone posts on nsfw subreddits doesn't mean they suddenly aren't allowed to have boundaries anymore :)

So how do i cummunicate properly? here are a few tips for two situations i witness alot on here:

you have a thing for degrading names like "slut", "sissy" or authority titles like "mistress", "sir": indicate your preferences clearly! you're writing a post? end it with a short and sweet "feel free to degrade me in the comments, fucktoy is my fave <3". how about a user flair? something like "call me mommy" can be more than enough :). if it's someone you've never talked to before, make sure you find out what they like first!

you just read that totally super hot post and want to chat this person up in the pms: don't beat around the bush and state your intentions instead of jumping into dirty talk right off the bat. Trust me, you can tell them about your "massive dripping schlong" once you've got the green light and know they're into it too. "But Comfy, i wanna sound sexy and confident!" i hear you say. Well do not fret! Here are some perfectly fine examples for you:

"woww, just saw your post and it's got me all worked up now. i almost ended my streak reading it! would love to tell you all the dirty details if you're up for it ;)"

"you surely have a way with words! are you looking for an edging buddy perhaps? plus points if that includes exchanging pics and vids. would love to get off together <3"

"hey i saw you talk about your breeding kink and it's got me hella intrigued! what's your favourite fantasy? how do you feel about RPing? :3"

About non-con kinks:

CNC (consensual non consent) is a valid kink in the bdsm community and i can totally see how it would pair well with edging or orgasm denial. My guide above isn't intended to restrict your kinky adventures in any way. On the contrary i hope you can use it to better communicate your needs to others, so that you may get to fulfill all your dirty fantasies :)

If you're reading this and genuinely derive pleasure from harassing people that don't want anything to do with you: may i reccommend a community better suited for you? it's called jail <3

Edit: misspelled "block"