As I have started to explore denial, I have found that it makes me a better person. It gives me more energy, forces me to become more in touch with myself sexually, increases body positivity, and gives me a more positive mindset.

However just like anything, it is only good in moderation. There are two really big issues that I ran into:

1. It was taking priority over my daily responsibilities, making me late to work, etc. This is unacceptable and is not something I can do in the future. Sexual thoughts became all that I was thinking of and it was encouraging addiction with weed, drinking, and porn.

2. I’ve always been a sexually hyperactive person. I orgasm 2-10 times a day, or at least I used to before I discovered and started exploring denial. I would also be constantly sexting or having a play partner. Well I haven’t since I got into a relationship with my partner. However when I’m denied, I find myself fighting to urge to sext with others or I end up talking to people about denial and it starts turning into sexting. I will NEVER cheat on my partner, but I think denial increases my urge and lowers my inhibition.

With these two things in mind, for me I believe denial is overall a positive. I thought about quitting completely and realized that it would lead to me just cumming more constantly and being drained, having less energy, feeling less body positive, and stop having as much control over my orgasm. So I am not sure if this is the right path. I’m also not sure if that’s the addiction talking.

Basically, I am trying to find a balance between keeping the good feelings but not falling too deep into this all. But I also love feeling the amazing pleasure so it is difficult.

I think I’d be fine if I could get control of myself when I NEED to do stuff, and just be fine reading erotic literature or something and teasing/edging myself, but I want to tell other people about what I feel and hear what they are feeling. For me, my pleasure has never really been my focus, because what really arouses me is making others pleasured, but I can’t do that with my gf. So I need some advice please!

Serious answers only. Not the horny, give into porn and ruin your life, answers. Because it could be very easy for me to do that and I refuse to. But edging and denial brings me so many benefits that I can’t just stop it. I need some help!