During end of last year I had an account on a dating app. Nothing really came off it (and those apps suck) so I deleted the account thinking nothing off it.

In a rather unexpected turn of events, I now find myself dating a girl I've kinda "known" for years because of it. I heard she showed interest in me before to another person, who told me a while after the fact. Until recently where I get a question from my mom asking if it's OK if she shared my number with said girl to go sporting together. I've had interest in her too, so I happily said yes.

It was clear from the start that the sporting bit was just a way of getting my contact info. That same evening she suddenly asks me if I have / had an account on an app. She saw it, and told me she likes me. We've been talking every day since then. It honestly takes up most of my free time, and I love it. It went quite fast and I'm inexperienced, along me not wanting to make people uncomfortable (this is also a big personal thing / boundary of mine). So we agreed to take it a bit slower and go according to my pace.

We met recently. I teased her before about a great burger I make, so I made that for her. The more the evening and night went on, the more intimate it became. From slightly awkwardly sitting next to her to tickling to massaging. Now I don't want to make people uncomfortable, so I didn't "dare" touch parts she did not want me to. From gently stroking and tickling to massaging her arm, back, upper leg and butt, per request / consent for said part. We went on for this for hours. She eventually turned around. Her stomach was ticklish, and I was not sure if she wanted me to lift up her bra for example and massage her tits. I did not want to ask, and she didn't tell me to, so we ended up chilling while I kept on massaging her legs. She breathed more heavily and her hips started to move a bit whenever my finder went up her leg. Yet I wasn't sure if I should have continued. I kept it at that, loving it anyways. I was hard throughout it, leaking through my underwear and even pants at some point. Looking back more could have easily happened but we were both quite happy with how everything played out :)

We texted later, talked about the meetup, the massaging, teasing each other with both knowing we wanted more, which turned into telling her I did get comfortable with the whole scenario, which turned into sexting for quite a while. Talking about my boundaries, discovering that those kinda do not exist anymore, talking about sex and teasing each other while doing so. Teasing me with her incredible body.. Honestly it has been a while since I even masturbated, and man was it fun. I did not make myself orgasm yet just riding that edge all the way.

I do now know that there essentially are no boundaries on both parties. No need to wait on any further consent for example, etc.. I also told her it was the same for me. Soo I can't wait on next meetup. It is actually happening ;)

Important lesson

This whole thing was because she (the confident one wanting more) made sure I (slightly uncomfortable as I did not know what I felt) also felt comfortable with the (for me) new situation. Listened to my concerns, made sure everything was ok, double checked to do so, was patient with me figuring out what I wanted and felt. Build up to where we are now, and where we are headed. Communication and patience is key people! I've never felt so comfortable with somebody before. If she did not both double down (reassuring my dense head did not mistake the not-so-very-subtle signals) and stayed at my pace, I don't think I would have gotten used to the idea, at least not this quickly.