Hey Fam,

I’m sure many of you, like me, love feeling horny. It’s such an incredible state of mind to be in, always having something to “look forward to” or “return to” after spending some time adulting. The best part is that it will continue to be available and become even more intense as long as we don’t cum. It’s so addicting to chase that state of being horny, I just love it.

I’m not sure why I’m writing, I figure some folks may find reading about someone else’s journey interesting. Or maybe someone reading this will be inspired to look at their relationship with masturbation through a different lense that they find works better for them. Or maybe it will be ignored 😂

I used to think masturbating was just about reaching the orgasm and I would try to do that as quickly and often as I could. I think my personal record was 6 times in one day. One day in my early years, I discovered edging. I didn’t know it was called edging or even how people could edge, but it worked for me. Actually I used it as a motivational technique to do homework. I’d jerk it once to the edge before starting my homework and then after I finished I’d have a full orgasm. I noticed that when I practiced this technique, I would shoot even more sperm and that caught my interest. I became obsessed with trying to shoot bigger and bigger loads and that led to discovering different edging techniques. I would rotate between edging and going flaccid, but I would always cum at the end. Those were some really powerful orgasms!

In my early 20’s I graduated to edging other people. I lived by myself right out of school and would post to Craigslist to try and find guys to edge. There’s nothing quite like becoming intimately familiar with someone else’s penis and body reaction, bringing them closer and closer but building slowly. Extracting all of their precum and soaking it back into their glans or balls, or eating it. And then feeling their hot cum blast everywhere and leaving the room smelling like it.

I discovered the edgingtalk subreddit in my mid 20’s and also started working from home. What a combo. I quickly learned that edging at work was really hard if you’re going to do a good job. The brain fog is real and honestly, what is more important? People often romanticize it on this subreddit and I think some people struggle with doing it and also trying to be successful professionally. Both are possible, everything in moderation!

But, the flexibility was incredible because I could edge before or after work, or during lunch, or during a a slow day. I could do it intensely or lightly. I could watch porn and clothes were optional! It was a very fun time experimenting how to control my body with horniness and load size etc but also be a responsible adult.

Another thing I learned and tried for the first time from Edgingtalk subreddit was not cumming after an edging session. Whew, that’s a whole different ball game.

Some of the things I learned about edging for multiple days with no release: 1. It’s much more about the journey than the destination. The final orgasm can be lackluster and a relative let down 2. It’s important to recognize that when you accidentally cum, that’s not failing. It’s part of the experience and your body telling you what it needs! You shouldn’t feel bad about it. 3. Compression underwear is a must for exercise, lest you pop a boner from your perpetually dripping semi.

The most important thing I learned about edging for multiple days is that it can come with negative psychological side effects for me, especially if I overdo it. I don’t know that everyone is the same way but I find myself irritable, anxious, stressed, and otherwise in an irrational bad mood when I’m not touching my penis. Honestly this became so bad for me when compared to not edging for multiple days that I reverted to cumming at the end of each session. I found that even edging 6 hours in a day and cumming at the end was fine, but edging 2 hours each day for 3 days in a row was not fine. Edging and being horny is fun, but not at the expense of your mental wellbeing and relationships.

The good news for me at least is that I’ve recently discovered a way around the effects. It’s pretty simple actually - it’s just striving for the middle ground. I no longer edge for multiple days in a row. I’ll take a rest day in between with no PMO (porn masturbation orgasm). A true physical reset and let me tell you - the horniness is still there and I still get to edge and build up all the horny feelings in my penis but I don’t have all the negatives I mentioned earlier.

These days my favorite way to masturbate is a combination of denial and edging games. Of course chatting with horny people is fun too and I find myself somewhat of an exhibitionist with randos online lol. Currently I’m trying not to cum until February, and each Monday I’ll roll a dice that shows how many hours I have to edge before the next Monday.

My last thought is that when I was in my 20’s, I always worried what my sex drive would be like in my 30’s. As a result, I wanted to maximize the experience. I can say now that I’m here that it’s not what I expected at all. I’m still really horny…. And judging by other posts from older people I’m assuming it doesn’t go away.

In my 30’s, I’ve learned to tolerate/love being horny and how to live responsibly and it might be better than when I was younger honestly. When I was 18 I could barely go 5 days before I’d have trouble sleeping due to the horniness. Now I can go 14 days and sleep easily. I believe in part it’s due to lower sex drive as you get older but it’s also experience with how to tolerate being horny. I love waking up with a 2 week uncummed cock and crawling back into a horny mental space 🥰. And if it’s not a PMO break day then maybe I’ll throw an edge in too before I get out of bed 😊