Hey!

One of my favourite parts of this subreddit is the interesting conversations that happen here, so I figured I'd contribute to it, while I'm in a life period where I can't do the Other thing we use this subreddit for. But also because I've seen a couple of posts that are more interested in fostering conversation, so this is also my contribution to that :)

Through discussing with some people here, I found that one of the things that comes up a lot for me, and some others, in longer-term denial is the sense of purpose that comes with it. Even if it's not for the sake of someone in particular, I kind of find it more fun, and easier to deny myself, if I have it exposed to others. If it's just me, then I don't feel like there is a point to me doing any denial. Short term edging is still a LOOOOT of fun, but I think the aspect of someone else being involved is what really gives it the context it needs to be fun for me.

This subreddit is fun for that, because it's a low-commitment, usually chill way to hold yourself accountable. This works great for me, as someone who's not into the super authoritarian aspect of having a dom, but also refuse to give up complete control over my stuff to someone I don't already have a relationship of trust with. This is casual, mutual motivation. (barring the couple weird responses and dms we can get lol).

So, I guess the conversation I'm trying to bring here is, long term edgers and deniers, is this how you operate too? What gives you the drive to carry on? I assume there's some of you who find the pleasure to be 100% enough motivation most of the time. And for those of you that don't enjoy longer term stuff, what is it about it that doesn't work for you? I'd love to hear about what works for you instead. I find it fun to discover alllll the different aspects of enjoyment of this whole thing that i hadn't thought of before :)