I recently joined this community to find someone I could connect with between relationships, but my experience so far has been terrible, leaving me disheartened. I know men have their own challenges too, but here are some of the key problems I’ve encountered as a woman that have made me not want to try again:

1. Catfishing is more common than you think

Many men don’t realize how common it is for women to get catfished. It’s so prevalent that I had to learn how to spot these people. A lot of them use photos of guys with ridiculously gigantic dicks, then rush through the conversation, expecting you to just bow down to them. It’s almost comical. Do they really think having a big dick means they don’t have to do anything else? Is that all they think women care about?

1. Lack of focus on women’s pleasure

Another frequent issue is the lack of attention given to women’s pleasure. Far too often, men prioritize their own satisfaction, expecting you to please them in every possible way while doing little to return the favor.

For example, you put in all the effort into their climax, hoping that at the very least, you'll get a video in return, and you make it very clear to them that that's what you're expecting. But instead of sending you the video, they disappear for days. When they finally come back, it’s usually with a ridiculous excuse. Some are so oblivious that they’ll straight up say, "Hey, I did cum. Thanks. But I decided to just clean up and go to bed. But I’m back now and want to do it again." And you’re just left speechless.

I sent you multiple videos, did everything you asked me to, and you fail at the ONLY thing I asked of you—and see no problem with it?

1. Minimal effort in the interaction

This ties in with the previous point. Not only do they not care about your pleasure, but they also put minimal effort into the interaction. When it comes to exchanges, a lot of men are only willing to show their dick and nothing else. But that’s not even the entire problem—they also don’t want to change the position or even turn on the light so you can at least see it clearly.

Every time you ask them to put in a bit more effort, it’s like you’re asking for something huge. For example, sometimes I ask them to turn around so I can see their backs, and they either say they don’t want to get up or try to do it as quickly as possible just to go back to their preferred position. It’s so frustrating, especially when you're making sure you do everything for them.

1. Men lying to get what they want

To combat some of these issues, I’ve started expressing in my posts that I’m specifically looking for a submissive man who isn’t shy about ass play. It’s not that I’m into it, but I figured these types of men might just be more attentive to my needs.

To make even more sure, I share some of these problems with them, and they completely agree with everything and promise to do better. But as soon as we get into it, you realize they were just lying to get what they want from you, and you’re dealing with the same problems all over again. There’s really no way to combat it.

I know a lot of men face problems too, but I just wanted to give some perspective on why there might not be many women in this space. A lot of guys are only out for themselves. You simply end up feeling used and disrespected.